I feel like the urge to fight, sue, and demand answers is the direct result of the constructive maliciousness of the medical environment, as orchestrated by the beancounters and provider/insurance bureaucracy. Let's say doctors had the bandwidth to not cut patient discussions short, not expect patients to need an adversarial "advocate", take the time to entertain unlikely hypotheses, monitor/admit for good faith investigative reasons rather than purely on liability rubric [0], etc. Then, when the doctors failed, you would feel that the failing was of a human group that earnestly did everything they could have. But the way the medical system has been whittled down into some bare bones bureaucratic assembly line, it makes it feel like every such failure is a willful and deliberate goal of the system. Why is the medical industry primarily focused on cost optimization through tightening the screws when they aren't even able to get the right answers?

[0] Like seriously I wish I could have given this kid one of the many weeks of observation that hospitals have given my paid-by-Medicare family members. The beds are available, they're just full of elderly people who had some acute problem but the hospital won't readily discharge them due to chronic medical conditions (plus they're messed up after being starved for a day in the ER).