I believe the worst part of this is society seems to be built around hiding anything other than positive emotions. People bottle up their feelings instead of expressing them because that is how we've been raised to behave. Like how many men express mostly anger because it seems to be the only consistently socially acceptable emotion even though it is the most destructive.
The more freedom and comfort everyone felt to express themselves honestly then the less build up of emotional pressure there is to release when they do. This means people feeling more emotionally content. It's like when someone is sad and crying people think the best way to help is to cheer them up and stop them feeling sad but all they're doing is stopping them from expressing that sadness which makes it worse.
I did a therapy course which was CBT with horses and it was a real eye opener to me as I've never been around horses before. The therapist shown me the body language and behaviours of her horses and their hierarchy. The way they would get into arguments and instantly express the emotions they felt from them by stamping their hooves or through the "out breath".
That letting go of emotional energy good or bad and understanding the transient nature of emotions is very liberating.
I've had serious back injuries in the past and sitting at a desk would soon lead to poor posture and discomfort.
The three best things I found for my back are.
1. Be mindful of how you're sitting and keep that natural curve in your spine with your shoulders back and chest out. You don't have to be aware of it all the time just make a habit of checking in with your posture when you sit down or when you're changing tasks.
2. If you go to a gym then hit the rowing machine. Good technique requires good posture and its great for strengthing those muscles.
3. Get a ball like a tennis ball and put it between the back of the chair and around the base of your spine/hips. This gives you space to relax your shoulders back and maintain a natural curve in your back. Just as long as you feel comfortable.
I found that after a while maintaining a good posture gets easy and more comfortable than slouching.
Surely in that case the man accused of the crime would have known they previously had messages from the accuser that were like to be critical to his defence?
Did he not make anyone aware of them or did they just ignore it?
I wonder how police behaviour would be influenced by refusing to hand over the data? Will they assign less resources to your case because they think you're unhelpful by not turning over your data?
Rape is already under-investigated and under-prosecuted in the UK, and we've seen numbers of prosecutions declining alarmingly after the cases that caused this new guidance to be issued.
So we don't need to wonder, we know: police and CPS administratively close the case.
Can you share the data that show the numbers of prosecutions declining per reported case, before and after the new guidance was issued?
As a comparison, I am reminded of Swedish statistics. Both people being assaulted in the home and sexually assaulted shared the same clearing rate. If rape is under-investigated in the UK we should expect those data to look very different unless both crimes are under-investigated, in which case I must ask what the norm is for which the claim of under-investigated is based on.
The claim for under-investigation comes from the fact that in English law rape is a very serious offence, and carries a similar sentence structure as murder. There are 150,000 rapes per year (according to the annual crime survey, which probably under-counts rape) and there are only 5,000 prosecutions each year.
Yes it also quotes the phrase “Police have a duty to pursue all reasonable lines of enquiry,”.
Who's judging what's reasonable here? What stops them making requests victims would rightfully consider unreasonable so the police can just claim that the victim was uncooperative so it doesn't negatively impact police statistics?
I guess that they're raised the bar on "cooperative". So if you've been the victim of a crime, you can't report it if there's any evidence of totally unrelated crimes. Say that you were raped, but had also ordered illegal drugs from your phone.
This "cult like" division of people and ideas is rife throughout reddit. Subreddits where reasonable objections get downvoted out of sight and preaching to the choir gets upvoted to the top reinforcing those beliefs.
It ruins the whole point of reddit. The mods are very biased on some subreddits that aren't even based on extreme ideas and they have so many unnecessary rules they can lock any thread they want for any reason just because they don't like it.
Reddit has become a cesspool for discourse. There are a couple of good subreddits but that's because they are based on discussion (e.g /r/casualconversation)not the subject of discussion.
Many subreddit don't want reasonable discourse. They want a safe space full of "yes men" that fall in line with and reinforce their beliefs.
I get the exact same results as you. As long as I exercise I feel much better also because I do it in the morning its easier to make it part of a good routine however it doesn't seem to help with the anxiety that underpins the depression.
Not feeling depressed is good for a while until it starts to feel like you're not fixing the real issue. Tackling all those routine tasks like exercise, sleep, diet is really easy compared to doing the things that are really important to you where there is much more uncertainty, risk, and discomfort that cause me to feel very anxious which is very discouraging.
Doing things like exercise to help with depression is like trying to repair a cracked stone wall by painting over it so you can't see the crack anymore.
For some reason I find it totally demotivating. I don't feel compelled to get better at all. That makes me lazy because I just feel so anxious I have to do something else to distract myself and feel better. It also naturally makes me feel very reluctant to go back to whatever made me feel that anxiety.
I like objective feedback and praise and I feel it helps on the surface but it doesn't really help with the underlying issue. It's like having a default mode set to "Negative" that can only be overridden for a short period.
I agree with you that there is some deeper underlying issue that needs to be addressed.
I have seen a therapist for a assertiveness course I did which was great. I couldn't see her after that though. I would like to see another therapist but here they are very expensive and I can't afford it. I have thought about using one of those therapy apps as they're much more affordable.
The more freedom and comfort everyone felt to express themselves honestly then the less build up of emotional pressure there is to release when they do. This means people feeling more emotionally content. It's like when someone is sad and crying people think the best way to help is to cheer them up and stop them feeling sad but all they're doing is stopping them from expressing that sadness which makes it worse.
I did a therapy course which was CBT with horses and it was a real eye opener to me as I've never been around horses before. The therapist shown me the body language and behaviours of her horses and their hierarchy. The way they would get into arguments and instantly express the emotions they felt from them by stamping their hooves or through the "out breath".
That letting go of emotional energy good or bad and understanding the transient nature of emotions is very liberating.