I mean, we _are_ talking about a book which invites you to build your own toy C compiler ^^
Nevertheless, OCaml is very strong in compiler design. For example Rust and Hack were written in OCaml initially.
Nevertheless you are not wrong that compilers needing the very last bit of performance like the JVM and LLVM tend to be written in C++
But the barrier is quite a lot more tending to high performance/very high performance and not toy/production
Java and Python are suitable for implementing a toy Compiler and the auther invites you to use any language you like. Just the reference implementation is using OCaml
I would however argue that using C++ is quite advanced since it does not have pattern matching and using C is just masochm. You will be fighting against the language to do even trivial things instead of fighting the actual problem at hand
I do not agree in the general case. There are very useful DSL compilers which do not consider performance at all, but just compile to a target which does the optimization for them (JVM, LLVM IR or even just C)
Also much of that work is heavily dependent on the used operating system.
Nevertheless, I'm wishing you all the best on your journey!