You are way too nice with the author, if I were you I’d omit the fake empathy which dilutes your substantial points. The author is hallucinating worse than AI.
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ha I honestly don't have that strong of an opinion of the author because the few tidbits I've seen I didn't even read all the way because the info on the surface was so flawed. this was the first article I've actually read. so I can't say they're malicious or hallucinating because I haven't looked into why they have the opinions they do. but I'm definitely not inclined to trust them, which was why I had to say that I've recognized the pattern of "Noah Smith" (I don't know who they are, where they work, nothing) seems to just ship out their own copy/paste of whatever trendy (and flawed) opinion is hot at the moment
There are a ton of them already in game dev but they produce unfun games so you don’t hear about them. The hard part of game dev is designing actually fun experiences.
Well-put. Sw eng is so much better, assuming you are comfortable in the role, for types who want to punch a clock doing something they don't hate.
Sales is the definition of high-pressure, and your output is always threatened by forces beyond your control. It doesn't consistently reward intelligence or any particular skill other than hustle.
There's nothing like sw dev that lets you sit at your desk and ignore the outside world while getting paid for delivering biz-critical milestones. Even creatives don't have this kind of potential autonomy.
Not quite my area of expertise but I can venture a guess. It's not large enterprise deals, that's a bit too random and narrow minded. Large software companies care more about their position in market (market share).
At the end of the day businesses build money machines that you put money in and you take money out from various markets. You need legibility if you want to tie all development work to how it affects how much of the market you own. And it's not quite legibility that is needed, it's accurate future market share prediction, which requires a particularly strategic form of legibility. The only way to increase market share without luck is to accurately forecast what your actions will do to your market share. But how can you do that if you have no idea what your devs are building and shipping?
We tend to make fun of incompetent business people but this is what the competent ones are doing - being super accurate in their forecast of future revenue, and forcing devs to build things that will help gain market share.
Devs often don't think about business strategy enough (as evidenced by the original article, no offense). So they aren't usually good at tying everything they do back to gaining market share. Devs who are the market audience for their app can be naturally good at PMF and going from 0 to 1, but as you scale its very hard to find devs that are also the market audience of the product they are building, so they tend to be bad at predicting how their dev roadmap will affect market share gain.
Without legibility, a team of devs can be a slot machine where you pull the lever and hope the features hit the jackpot or at least a modest return and not duds. With small bets, that's a great way to become large, but its no way to run a competitive large business.
In the comments it reveals this guy is using the sharpener wrong by doing way too many pulls with too much pressure.
The cheap ikea one is fine, it will not wear out your blade. 2-3 pulls at very light pressure, no need to learn how to use a whetstone properly, perfect UX for those who don’t typically sharpen knives.
Not to take away from the article, in the comments she states that her world is filled with the joy of new things with her new baby. She is doing as well as one can be for how much she loved Jake and how much she misses him.
The author is extremely talented at isolating certain feelings and making you feel them with her. I wouldn't use this article as a diagnosis of anything but her writing talent.
> She is doing as well as one can be for how much she loved Jake and how much she misses him.
Again, my point is that that statement is absolutely true and also does not preclude the notion that additional professional help may be warranted.
I went on Prozac earlier this year after a conversation with my doctor that went, roughly: “I think you’ve got anxiety” “well yeah, look at the fucking world!” “…right.” Just because there’s a good reason for what you’re going through doesn’t mean you’re not going through it.
Put another way, if the author had been shot a year ago and was saying things like “most days I’m fine, but some days I literally cannot walk or feel my left arm,” the notion that they should be talking to professionals would not be controversial, even though their symptoms are absolutely utterly explicable given what they’ve been through.
Consider that the author may elect to this suffering as a testament to her love for her partner and as a way to memorialize what he meant to her.
If your partner died and the very next day a doctor said, "Here's a pill that will make you forget you were ever together and erase 100% of the pain. You'll feel amazing." Would you take it?
I would very much like for the author to be able to memorialize her partner in a way that she feels offers a testimonial to someone who was such a big part of her life. If she's able to do that right now, that's fantastic (and this post is certainly a well-rendered testimonial). The point of getting additional help (and, again, as stated above, I mean therapy, not necessarily drugs) is to ensure she can do that - to provide the support, structures, framework, and understanding that she can make those choices consciously and in a way that allows her to feel as though she's honoring his memory in the best way she can.
Usually I would agree with your points, especially that wounds on the soul should be treated like wounds on the body - objectively, and with the best practice medical support for proper healing to minimize adverse effects.
But as she so eloquently puts it, the grief is not just a wound, its a lifestyle change. Its the repetition of existing expectations and systems that have to be retrained and rewired.
Professional help can help numb feelings but when it comes to retraining your entire life, as she also implies, professional help is only medically necessary if you are completely debilitated and unable to do the retraining yourself.
Professional help is only as helpful as it can do it better than she can. And I think because it involves lots of instances of processing her own feelings, that kind of help is difficult to provide medically.
Support groups I can understand helping her situation though.
To be clear, I'm not advocating for chemical intervention - I think a competent therapist/grief counselor can help process and metabolize the change. I also am not suggesting that the ideal goal is that the author feels no grief, rather that she is able to move in a productive and healing direction, as opposed to feeling like she's being battered beyond her control.
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