Another aspect is parents. My wife and I had strong arguments about our child. She refused to accept our child had a problem because she has similar traits. If a parent can't look past their own faults, therapy will not make a difference. It wasn't until a few brave souls approached me that I had a basis to engage my wife that it wasn't me making it up. She misdiagnosed many things on the journey.

I feel the need to clarify something. In most ways, my wife is amazing. Very strong willed, clever, independent. She is the only partner I could work with as an equal. As we've worked things through for our child, she's benefitted in many ways too. Not surprisingly, my child's behaviour is like my father in law.