From what I have seen, this is more about who has power. Men tend to have more power than women. When the roles are reversed, women will sexually harass men.
We need to work on coming up with ways to create a world in which power is less likely to lead to this type of abuse. I think that starts with generally having healthier attitudes surrounding sexuality.
It's not just power. Men and women have somewhat different distributions of personalities. Women, on average, are more willing to try to smooth things over rather than engage in explicit conflict.
If you flip the genders, then on average, abuse of power will cause outright conflict sooner rather than after it has built up to completely unacceptable levels.
I'm a woman. I feel strongly that it is nigh impossible to clearly determine how much of gender difference is really due to innate biological tendencies and how much is due to social crap shaping the genders differently.
A cousin of mine commented on being a Navy recruiter and calling his wife to come sit at the office because of teenaged girls showing up at the recruiting office and trying to hang on him. He was very worried about how this would be perceived and he did not know how to turn them away. He was over 6 feet tall and scared of what these "little girls" would do to his career. The only effective solution he could find was to call his wife and have her in the office when they showed up.
I really think it is far more complicated than most people want to believe. Seeing the world in black-and-white, simple terms is just easier to cope with. But it usually is not an accurate assessment of reality.
> I really think it is far more complicated than most people want to believe.
So do I, and thanks for bringing some balance to the discussion. I noticed Mr. Calbeck's apology makes it sound like the situation is simple and not complicated.
In our present culture, men rarely report sexual harassment or domestic violence, believing (correctly) that they won't be believed or will be expected to endure (or enjoy) it. And direct confrontation often leads to male victims being charged.
I disagree, and think that what's more illuminating is what happens if they DO report it, and the tone of which they report it. Of which this is not very far off:
I am in no position to watch your video, so I am not entirely sure what your point is. But given your bald statement that you disagree with the above comment, I will note that I was romantically involved at one time with a man who had been sexually abused by a grown women when he was about 13. Not even his best friend knew. He had all kinds of serious personal problems.
Men do tend to hide it when they are the victims. There is substantial evidence that male victims of sexual assault have an even harder time coping in the aftermath than women, in part because it is seen as emasculating and they face bigger challenges than women in getting some kind of meaningful support if they try to tell anyone.
It seems to me that you've just proved my point by openly stating that you expect male victims to enjoy it, but perhaps I misunderstood what you intended to imply with the link to that video.
We need to work on coming up with ways to create a world in which power is less likely to lead to this type of abuse. I think that starts with generally having healthier attitudes surrounding sexuality.