Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples. In the event that a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even greater negative impacts on their relationship.
It’s even worse for women than for men.
I for one do not like small children. Everything about small children and babies irritate me and I never wanted to be a father for that reason.
On the other hand, I became attached to my now step children from the first day I met them and I would move heaven and earth for them. But, they were already 9 and 14. Luckily, my wife also didn’t want more kids when we met. I’ll freely admit that it’s mostly caused by selfishness. Not financial selfishness, but with a teenager and a preteen, we never had to find babysitters when we wanted to go out and my wife and I could have plenty of alone time.
When I hung out with just my (step) children we could actually relate. In a lot of ways, I’m a big kid and they always joke when I say something that “this is reason number X that I will never make father of the year”.
I've always found this a strange statistic. My children bring me greater joy and satisfaction than anything else I've ever done in my life and my relationship with my wife has only strengthened.
This is one of those things that can't be "tested", so it is better to be sure before having kids. Personally I've decided against having kids, maybe I'll regret when I am 50, but for now I don't. Fortunately for me, there are enough humans in the planet already, so a few of us not having kids should only have positive impact, at least in the short term.
Occasionally when I see other parents with babies, I imagine a life with my wife and I raising a baby and thinking I missed something. Then they start crying and just being kids and I quickly get over it.
http://fortune.com/2016/05/09/mothers-marriage-parenthood/
Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples. In the event that a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even greater negative impacts on their relationship.
It’s even worse for women than for men.
I for one do not like small children. Everything about small children and babies irritate me and I never wanted to be a father for that reason.
On the other hand, I became attached to my now step children from the first day I met them and I would move heaven and earth for them. But, they were already 9 and 14. Luckily, my wife also didn’t want more kids when we met. I’ll freely admit that it’s mostly caused by selfishness. Not financial selfishness, but with a teenager and a preteen, we never had to find babysitters when we wanted to go out and my wife and I could have plenty of alone time.
When I hung out with just my (step) children we could actually relate. In a lot of ways, I’m a big kid and they always joke when I say something that “this is reason number X that I will never make father of the year”.