I did weekly one-on-ones with a former gf. We'd just check in, see how the week went.. make sure everyone is feeling good and getting enough attention and whatnot.

I thought it was a good idea, and maybe it was. It felt fine at the time. Our lives took us in different directions and we parted ways after a couple years dating. I thought we left things amicably, but I got an email a few years later (after I had married someone else) that made it clear that my then-gf does indeed seem to hate my fucking guts now.

I don't do one-on-ones with my wife, but it still doesn't strike me as a bad idea.

It's entirely possible I'm an idiot.