Sure. It's reading. (happy to send you a reading list if you let me know your own aptitudes and interests as a point of entry ). It's learning that Western culture structures the normal as a white monyed male and any perspective that interrogates that is too 'political.' This space right here _is_ political, even when you disavow it as so. In this space my experience of working in tech as a woman - which shares many perhaps most of what you experience - but then there are the things you cannot imagine. Ask specific questions. When I post an article about a woman's experience on this site, a user flags it right away. ( see my last post here ). The good news is, all of this is becoming more and more normal. Otherwise I would not even bother here, as I have lurked for over a decade getting what I needed here and trying not to be to demoralized by the shape of content and the common fantasy that one can construct choose where, how and when the political intervenes.