I get what you mean and i agree to some extent. With that said i think the general disdain is justified given that the absolute majority of people and companies do not in fact contribute back.
Those who do shouldn't feel targeted by such statements imo.
Yes, I'm also very much talking about this specific case, where someone posted a factual question to a community channel. No demands, no "how dare you", no shouting, not even directly poking a maintainer. And I find the reactions jarring that just because they mentioned "our CI" suddenly they have to be bad guys. (Hoping that an end-user asking "my script unexpectedly failed" would not also get "what did users ever do for us" response)
Those who do shouldn't feel targeted by such statements imo.