'One of the issues they had was fighting over trying to keep him adequately fed. If you offered him food, he got defensive. It had been a battle for a long time and he was struggling to retain some control over his life and body at a time when everyone was trying to take away his control on top of his mind beginning to fail him.

My sons and I resolved this issue by leaving good quality food at dad's "place" at the table.'

"It returned decision-making control to him concerning what to eat, when and how much while letting other people make decisions about what was appropriate for him to eat, given his many dietary restrictions."

It reminds me of the Satter Division of Responsibility in Feeding:

https://www.ellynsatterinstitute.org/how-to-feed/the-divisio...