All the body language, eye contact etc are lab analysis. I'd bet a few dollars that even very autistic people will get this (after all many are very very intelligent) if could look at a broader panel of emotions in other people and how interacting with each others is kind of a dance act.
If you go too much into your own head while speaking to someone you will forget the other and miss the so called body language cues. The cues are not the point, getting carried away on one's own little narrative is. If you try to see talking as a simple fun exchange, to share things and keep a bit on the same track, together.
Maybe autistic people have the logical pursuit as the only mode of pleasure and have this reflex to exchange with other similarly-minded people (you teach me something new, I teach you something new) but most people just want to share simpler things and find fun, safety to an extent.
Logical pursuit is not the only mode of pleasure for us, but it is one of the most profound. It's like starting with a single brick and building a castle, and we want to show our friends the castle and, even more impressively, how we went from single brick to castle. Sharing the pleasure of appreciating this sort of thing is a basis for deep friendship. Just "being there", going to parties or watching football games or whatever it is normies do with their friends -- it's something some of us can do, but it does not forge such deep or strong bonds for us.
I understand, I probably have some autistic traits. But you gotta understand how other people operate, and not converge only to the restricted group that resonates to your own tune. That said, as I tried to hint above, it's a bidirectional thing, you're under no obligation to enjoy what others do. To them these events are sometimes profound (you may have jumped of joy watching a sporting event, or enjoyed a good group laughter some nights) too. It's just different. Oh and the normies might also like deep intellectual enlightenment too, the IQ is just distributed on the gaussian, some need the right context and pedagogy.
All the body language, eye contact etc are lab analysis. I'd bet a few dollars that even very autistic people will get this (after all many are very very intelligent) if could look at a broader panel of emotions in other people and how interacting with each others is kind of a dance act.
If you go too much into your own head while speaking to someone you will forget the other and miss the so called body language cues. The cues are not the point, getting carried away on one's own little narrative is. If you try to see talking as a simple fun exchange, to share things and keep a bit on the same track, together.
Maybe autistic people have the logical pursuit as the only mode of pleasure and have this reflex to exchange with other similarly-minded people (you teach me something new, I teach you something new) but most people just want to share simpler things and find fun, safety to an extent.
My 2 cents