Not to give too much credit to Yang, but I think he's hitting on a point that is more subtle than you're making, perhaps by accident.
I agree with you, masculinity is good, fantastic, worth cherishing. I'm a man, I enjoy my masculinity (whatever that is, yeah), and I enjoy expressing it in mostly positive ways. This sometimes means doing stereotypically feminine things, or acting in "softer" ways, which is fine. Emotional maturity is masculine.
This leads to me sometimes being referred to as a man who is "written by a woman" or an "egg" (a trans person who isn't yet out/hasn't realized it yet). These are obviously jokes, but they're still harmful jokes, because they perpetuate the idea that my good attribute can't be masculine. This shifts from toxic masculinity being a bad subset of masculinity, to masculinity being toxic by exclusion (as nontoxic traits are inherently non-masculine).
That's a really harmful pattern, and one that people shouldn't perpetuate.
I agree with you, masculinity is good, fantastic, worth cherishing. I'm a man, I enjoy my masculinity (whatever that is, yeah), and I enjoy expressing it in mostly positive ways. This sometimes means doing stereotypically feminine things, or acting in "softer" ways, which is fine. Emotional maturity is masculine.
This leads to me sometimes being referred to as a man who is "written by a woman" or an "egg" (a trans person who isn't yet out/hasn't realized it yet). These are obviously jokes, but they're still harmful jokes, because they perpetuate the idea that my good attribute can't be masculine. This shifts from toxic masculinity being a bad subset of masculinity, to masculinity being toxic by exclusion (as nontoxic traits are inherently non-masculine).
That's a really harmful pattern, and one that people shouldn't perpetuate.