There are ample other spaces where people have contended with your precise arguments. I am not saying that you are wrong because these other people are wrong. I am saying that, after evaluating your viewpoint, I find it to be equally as wrong as these other viewpoints.

A large number of transgender people will find your viewpoint to be fundamentally disrespectful. It will not be possible for you to come across as respectful, no matter how much you insist on it. This is why I ask you to consider how the recipients of your words experience them as a better judge of whether you are behaving kindly.