It is normal that kids take up all your time, but "just chaos" doesn't sound right.
Without knowing your situation, maybe this helps: As you probably know first there was authoritarian parenting (rule the kids), then permissive parenting (let them do whatever they want), both of which create problems for the children.
The parenting-style agreed upon today by psychologists is "authoritative parenting", which basically means telling the kids what you want them to do, but giving them a lenient timeframe and freedom to chose how and when they do it. It raises their self-esteem and encourages them to work together with you.
It is normal that kids take up all your time, but "just chaos" doesn't sound right.
Without knowing your situation, maybe this helps: As you probably know first there was authoritarian parenting (rule the kids), then permissive parenting (let them do whatever they want), both of which create problems for the children.
The parenting-style agreed upon today by psychologists is "authoritative parenting", which basically means telling the kids what you want them to do, but giving them a lenient timeframe and freedom to chose how and when they do it. It raises their self-esteem and encourages them to work together with you.
https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/types-of-parenti...