Your piece addresses what you claim to be a basic "unfairness": You (if it's really you) say someone "didn't treat me as a friend".
Most of the comments are reflecting on whether it really was or wasn't unfair.
So I'd say it's also an interesting worldview that you make a claim about fairness and then dismissed any conversation about fairness (the topic _you brought up_) with a glib statement asserting that anyone who ponders this as being "blind to any emotional" concerns.
The Hacker News comment fills in a missing piece for me: why did Carl lose his shit on him? That part was just a one sided story so there were gaps for me.
Seeing how he speaks to a new community made it all crystal clear. I’ve encountered that type of demeanor quite often, which is burying nonetheless-obvious and heaping contempt under “it was particularly enjoyable” smarm and a fake smile. Even if unintended, wow, what a way to undermine the intended emotional payload of the story by demonstrating unreliable narration and self-awareness, as well as some far less favorable aspects of personality and empathy.
I feel for the guy, that situation is tough, but it’s making more sense now that I’m waking up to act 2 (particularly Mojang’s willingness to let it lie, another question I had).
Julian, if you read this, I don’t know that your words are having the effect you’re hoping for, and obviously pushing for. I think you’re unconsciously making the case that distance from you was probably healthy for all involved. I see a lot of discussion about whether HN is emotionally intelligent, and it might be true that folks here tend to focus on legalisms (it is, after all, primarily engineers), but take it from an outsider here: HN is on the mark in this case and I’d be more suspicious of Reddit’s take if I were you.
> I’ve encountered that type of demeanor quite often, which is burying nonetheless-obvious and heaping contempt under “it was particularly enjoyable” smarm and a fake smile.
Or maybe it really was enjoyable for him to read someone else's point of view? If someone disagrees with you, down to the very core beliefs that serve as foundation of your world, I don't think there is much of a better way to try to handle the situation.
Most of the comments are reflecting on whether it really was or wasn't unfair.
So I'd say it's also an interesting worldview that you make a claim about fairness and then dismissed any conversation about fairness (the topic _you brought up_) with a glib statement asserting that anyone who ponders this as being "blind to any emotional" concerns.