Most guys on the internet think a guy has to meet a high bar of requirements when really all they want is someone who is not so dependent on them: can take care of himself, cover his own bills, etc. Someone who’s self sufficient and doesn’t need a mother.
Sure, maybe that one girl passed on you in your 20s because you didn’t have the right credentials, but there are plenty of other people out there.
I think the education and income requirements do (severely) limit the choices of ambitious women, but that’s their problem, not ours.
The rest of the requirements are reasonable, and imo, the attractiveness standard for men is way lower.
And more generally, there’s a place for venting. But make sure you aren’t making excuses for yourself, because taking action to improve your life is probably simpler than you think, and will make you happier.
> And more generally, there’s a place for venting. But make sure you aren’t making excuses for yourself, because taking action to improve your life is probably simpler than you think, and will make you happier.
Point take, though I'm married with children.
> but that’s their problem, not ours.
So it's my daughters' problem, hence my job to prepare them for.
More generally, though, I think it's linked to the electrician shortage as well as the ongoing population collapse.
Resourceful men can work around it relatively easily, and even use the hypergamy to their advantage.
But for society, the hypergamy is a factor that needs to be understood and either incorporated into the social structure (such as by allowing polygamy, like in Muslim countries) or by some other means that prevents the population collapse (and other problems) that the current hypergamous culture leads to.
Well, I'm already married, and I think 1 is enough for me.
But the current trend where about 40% of men (much higher in some social groups) end up single, and not of their own choosing, I expect it to cause all sorts problems in the future, caused by frustrated men willing to take greater and greater risks to get access to women.
Actually, the effect may be the opposite. As risk taking is normalized, men, and especially those who do get access to women, tend to become more violent. This also affects the women and children.
Just look at the violent crime statistics of any area where the marriage rate is less than 40% and compare it to any area where the marriage rate is >80%.
Sure, maybe that one girl passed on you in your 20s because you didn’t have the right credentials, but there are plenty of other people out there.