I think it's an unavoidable outcome of optimization. Like when you sacrifice Cha for Str and Dex in RPGs. In games you have limited attribute points, but in real life you also have limited resources. Assign them to competing with people and you won't have them for connecting to people. There is now way around it. If I want to focus on my workouts I can't spend time trying to catch her eye contact at the gym. And she doesn't have time for that either, between actually working out and recording that for Instagram.