You seem to be basing "luck" on sexual partners. Consider a different framing: she has had 23 or more attempts at finding a partner (and presumably you have as well). But none of those worked out. You succeeding means you're better than those 22 men before (likely also including in bed). On the other hand, your parents have no realistic partners to compare to, and their success required more luck and meant that they are less independent. You on the other hand have had the time to find yourself, your passions, and been able to find someone who independently found themselves and passions. You didn't fall for that person because you happened to go to the same high school and had a childhood crush. You fell for that person because you love who they are and what they made of themselves.
In this context, I think you are lucky. You definitely had an opportunity that your parents didn't. It's impossible to say which is better. And if we're being honest, 40 years with a person is still a significant amount of time. If you meet your partner at 40, you have another 35 to 50 years with that person. Either way that's more time than your working memory (unless you really remember a lot of your early childhood). I know the grass always seems greener on the other side, but that just shows us how we are able to frame things however we want. Choice is yours.
>But none of those worked out. You succeeding means you're better than those 22 men before (likely also including in bed).
That's a premature conclusion. You have no idea why they have 22 partners or whether the person in question will be the last, but you're basing the entirety of your argument/context off of assumptions that the 23th is 'the chosen one'.
Statistically better than your parents.
You seem to be basing "luck" on sexual partners. Consider a different framing: she has had 23 or more attempts at finding a partner (and presumably you have as well). But none of those worked out. You succeeding means you're better than those 22 men before (likely also including in bed). On the other hand, your parents have no realistic partners to compare to, and their success required more luck and meant that they are less independent. You on the other hand have had the time to find yourself, your passions, and been able to find someone who independently found themselves and passions. You didn't fall for that person because you happened to go to the same high school and had a childhood crush. You fell for that person because you love who they are and what they made of themselves.
In this context, I think you are lucky. You definitely had an opportunity that your parents didn't. It's impossible to say which is better. And if we're being honest, 40 years with a person is still a significant amount of time. If you meet your partner at 40, you have another 35 to 50 years with that person. Either way that's more time than your working memory (unless you really remember a lot of your early childhood). I know the grass always seems greener on the other side, but that just shows us how we are able to frame things however we want. Choice is yours.