If recounting one's sexual experiences to a stranger for the possibility of becoming their partner, is just "feelings land", then rejecting that person for having too many sexual partners is too, and so is to reject the person who asked how many.

I wonder if you yourself have started any date by saying "I have fucked this many people". After all, it seems only natural that you would lead by example. How has that worked for you so far?

You don't have to ask, I've never asked, behavior is a pretty good indicator and if you are in college or a smaller community word gets around.

Hey man, men rejecting women like that just leaves more for you right? Nobody is stopping you from having a former sex worker as a wife, it's just I and many people like me don't feel lifelong commitment with such a person is worthwhile or desirable.

> ... if you are in college or a smaller community word gets around

Maybe this is the reason I don't get this kind of reactionaryism: I left for college ~25 years ago, and didn't go back to the small town I grew in.

And I'm glad. I could have turned into the same kind of guy who still believes that men can aspire to be players, and women should not.