I put it under "accept yourself". If you don't find yourself attractive, that will impact your ability to find attractiveness in others. Be it due to insecurity or bitterness.
I think one aspect is that we mix charisma with attractiveness. They correlate, but looking like a movie star is not the only way to have charisma. Simply the easiest. Yes, the easiest, compared to being funny, having interesting life stories, or being wildly successful. You can dedicate 2 years to looking attractive with consistent results. You can't dedicate 2 years and guarantee you make tons of money or that you can tell some good jokes.
Either way, if you don't accept yourself, change yourself to a way where you can. As RuPaul says:
>If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?
I think one aspect is that we mix charisma with attractiveness. They correlate, but looking like a movie star is not the only way to have charisma. Simply the easiest. Yes, the easiest, compared to being funny, having interesting life stories, or being wildly successful. You can dedicate 2 years to looking attractive with consistent results. You can't dedicate 2 years and guarantee you make tons of money or that you can tell some good jokes.
Either way, if you don't accept yourself, change yourself to a way where you can. As RuPaul says:
>If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?