> When you are young, you make partner choices based on primal, raw desire. As you "age out" of your youth, start a career, etc, you make more practical partner choices based on provisioning capacity, conscientiousness, agreeableness, etc.
Hopefully, as you age, you choose partners based on many factors, the most important being both your abilties to understand yourselves; see others in a sophisticated, mature, and especially non-objectifying way; feel love; and form deep, healthy, emotional bonds.
It's the non-objectifying factors that count. Sex object, money-producing object - that is all the same misunderstanding of other humans. If that's what someone wants, they should hire someone and not marry them.
Hopefully, as you age, you choose partners based on many factors, the most important being both your abilties to understand yourselves; see others in a sophisticated, mature, and especially non-objectifying way; feel love; and form deep, healthy, emotional bonds.
It's the non-objectifying factors that count. Sex object, money-producing object - that is all the same misunderstanding of other humans. If that's what someone wants, they should hire someone and not marry them.