>However when I look at the personal computers I run today, there is no "desktop" because I prefer textmode and I am running many tiny servers.
That puts you in the vanishingly-small minority. To borrow a phrase from Tom Ptacek: to a decent first approximation, zero people including you are daily-driving text mode for their personal machines.
People describe "desktop-oriented" distros as such because they're filled with niceties such as support for multiple physical displays, sub-pixel LCD hinting, sane defaults for mouse/touchpad input, graphical wifi managers, and usually desktop environments. They ship with these things out of the box. Imagine recommending with a straight face that someone go to starbucks and manually edit wpa_supplicant.conf to get onto the wifi.
People describe distros as "server-oriented" because while you could achieve the aforementioned niceties with them, it's usually a hassle. In my experience BSD (or Gentoo) aficionados tend to eschew the term "hassle" in favor of sayings like "minimal" or "exactly what I want and no more" or the ever-popular but always meaningless "cohesive" when describing those operating systems.
In any case, the "desktop" metaphor might not be useful to you but consider that your use case is far from common.
> Imagine recommending with a straight face that someone go to starbucks and manually edit wpa_supplicant.conf to get onto the wifi.
Editing config files is not specific to TUI, you can do it even with GUI editor, and you have to if you want to do anything more complicated with your computer, like route some traffic over VPN and some not, or have a dynamic VPN setup based on what wifi network you're connected to.
Also in the TUI land, there's iwd these days which has nicer end-user text mode UI than wpa_cli, with one command to start a scan, and another to connect. There's also wifi-menu, or nmtui. All pretty much equivalent to the GUI wifi selection menus people use on windows.
That puts you in the vanishingly-small minority. To borrow a phrase from Tom Ptacek: to a decent first approximation, zero people including you are daily-driving text mode for their personal machines.
People describe "desktop-oriented" distros as such because they're filled with niceties such as support for multiple physical displays, sub-pixel LCD hinting, sane defaults for mouse/touchpad input, graphical wifi managers, and usually desktop environments. They ship with these things out of the box. Imagine recommending with a straight face that someone go to starbucks and manually edit wpa_supplicant.conf to get onto the wifi.
People describe distros as "server-oriented" because while you could achieve the aforementioned niceties with them, it's usually a hassle. In my experience BSD (or Gentoo) aficionados tend to eschew the term "hassle" in favor of sayings like "minimal" or "exactly what I want and no more" or the ever-popular but always meaningless "cohesive" when describing those operating systems.
In any case, the "desktop" metaphor might not be useful to you but consider that your use case is far from common.