The trick is to have a genuine respect, interest, and empathy for another person's approach, even if you disagree.

If you just take a superficial facsimile of what is suggested, without the actual respect and empathy, it will sound like bullshit as you say: it is.

But stopping to condition yourself to be empathetic first is a way of, I guess, bootstrapping that respect and empathy.

It's a low bar that people frequently don't clear.