The custom prompts feature, and the "about me" mostly fixed this for me, with my usual conversations. In both, I convinced it that I'm competent, and that it doesn't need to hold my hand, so much.

I've also noticed that API based clients (rather than the web or iOS client) result in conversations that hold my hand less. The voice client seems hopeless though, probably because I write ok, but have trouble saying what I want before the stupid thing cuts me off. It seems to love making lists, and ignoring what I want.