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It's a lot more nuanced than that. You can't just "control your anger". You can layer a controlling part of your mind on top of the anger to try to swat it down every time it surfaces, but this is a temporary solution. Especially when the anger is rooted deeply in things like trauma or shame.

The path forward is to understand the anger with compassion, and the trauma or painful emotions below it, or the boundaries that are being crossed. Rather than just trying to force yourself not to feel it.

It's not that different from telling a depressed person that they should just think positively to cure themselves.




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