> As far as I'm concerned, you are basically mentally stunted if you didn't work for pay in your teenage years.
I worked a teenage job, too. Physical labor.
It was a learning experience, but I don’t see it as this life changing pivot point that separated me from others. In fact, you meet plenty of people at a physical labor job like that who are clearly not on a path to being ahead of their peers, or who have been doing the same work for decades since they were a teenager.
I also know plenty of people who didn’t have any jobs until they graduated college and they turned out fine.
I think some of the lofty claims about teenage jobs being life changing or how teens who don’t get jobs are “mentally stunted” are getting absurd.
It reads like people who have developed a chip on their shoulder about their own upbringings being superior to others because they were more difficult.
> In fact, you meet plenty of people at a physical labor job like that who are clearly not on a path to being ahead of their peers, or who have been doing the same work for decades since they were a teenager.
At least for me, the experience of doing physical labor alongside people like that as a teenager was a real eye-opener. It showed me exactly what my life might look like if I didn't focus and work toward my goals. That was already my plan, but seeing the alternative first hand was pretty motivating nonetheless (and frightening).
imo this is what good parenting should be about regardless of one’s class or upbringing.
It’s good to show kids which possible “doors” they can go down in life. It’s easy to claim that door X is better than door Y, but unless you have them _see_ the difference, or at least talk to someone that’s been through door Y, they won’t believe you.
There’s nothing wrong with focusing on a difficult track! But if you grow up to be an adult that doesn’t comprehend how a normal person lives, then you’ve got a problem lol.
Yep. 17 year old me working alongside a 70 year old dude working the same job as me... I knew that's not what I wanted for my life.
That said, I think I've still wafted through life on tracks. I just concluded that FAANG was the next track after uni so I made it happen. Not sure I'm happy any more though. Maybe I need to reinvent myself.
I worked a teenage job, too. Physical labor.
It was a learning experience, but I don’t see it as this life changing pivot point that separated me from others. In fact, you meet plenty of people at a physical labor job like that who are clearly not on a path to being ahead of their peers, or who have been doing the same work for decades since they were a teenager.
I also know plenty of people who didn’t have any jobs until they graduated college and they turned out fine.
I think some of the lofty claims about teenage jobs being life changing or how teens who don’t get jobs are “mentally stunted” are getting absurd.
It reads like people who have developed a chip on their shoulder about their own upbringings being superior to others because they were more difficult.