Many thanks for the openness that offers some insight into success, and the kindness that can see and unlock the potential in (underperforming) people.
"Find your people" is presented as finding those who can unlock you, show new worlds and opportunities. It can sound like the wonderful promise of networking bringing you opportunities (like a land of milk and honey).
But at the same time, you're told you must tolerate rejection and disbelief.
So perhaps the key is first to find something you believe in enough to stake a claim to it. Then some people will reject you (and leave), but you'll find others who buy in. Then you'll have the terrifying responsibility of making it true, for yourself and for them, and your (mutual) commitment becomes, well, serious.
Are they "your" people? Are you leading them, or following what you've targeted? When you need to pivot, are they following you, or are you all following the moving target?
It's complicated, but there's a phase/governance shift from interaction to trusting and being trusted that makes the entire dance possible.
It's your reliability in your commitment that leads them to trust your vision and direction, and willingly fill your many gaps and blind spots.
So I wouldn't mis-read "find your people" as "suck up to those handing out opportunities you want". It's not just getting off the tracks, but setting your own direction - reliably - that might secure other's trust.
"Find your people" is presented as finding those who can unlock you, show new worlds and opportunities. It can sound like the wonderful promise of networking bringing you opportunities (like a land of milk and honey).
But at the same time, you're told you must tolerate rejection and disbelief.
So perhaps the key is first to find something you believe in enough to stake a claim to it. Then some people will reject you (and leave), but you'll find others who buy in. Then you'll have the terrifying responsibility of making it true, for yourself and for them, and your (mutual) commitment becomes, well, serious.
Are they "your" people? Are you leading them, or following what you've targeted? When you need to pivot, are they following you, or are you all following the moving target?
It's complicated, but there's a phase/governance shift from interaction to trusting and being trusted that makes the entire dance possible.
It's your reliability in your commitment that leads them to trust your vision and direction, and willingly fill your many gaps and blind spots.
So I wouldn't mis-read "find your people" as "suck up to those handing out opportunities you want". It's not just getting off the tracks, but setting your own direction - reliably - that might secure other's trust.