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> It's just hard to justify engaging. Worst case, I get a fight on my hands with someone who's as dogmatic as they are wrong, which is both frequent and also a complete waste of my time.

The three mindset changes I found that really help with this are understanding that:

* You don't have to try and get the last word in.

* Other people are not entitled to your time, especially if they're engaging in bad faith.

* Outside of small and curated communities, there's pretty good odds that you're not interacting with a real and honest person.

So whenever I click into the comment box, I always ask myself "Can I really be bothered with this? Is this really what I want to be spending my free time doing?"

And then I often close the comment box and get on with my life.





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