I definitely agree with this general thought. I can't say this with any certainty, but I have developed the impression that a large part of charisma is either genetic or early-developmental and is very hard to learn. People just either have the "reality distortion field" or they don't.
I have seen people suddenly develop this trait on amphetamines, but ruining your health by abusing amphetamine to have charisma isn't a great trade. This observation does make me wonder if it doesn't have something to do with dopamine levels/sensitivity and whatever other systems amphetamine acts upon. People with bipolar disorder can be superhumanly charismatic when they are in a manic phase, and moderate to heavy amphetamine doses more or less approximate mania (in people without ADD/ADHD).
Like height and facial symmetry it's a trait that is unrelated to the content of one's mind but heavily biases people toward you in one on one interactions... regardless of the merit of what you're actually saying or doing.
I have seen people suddenly develop this trait on amphetamines, but ruining your health by abusing amphetamine to have charisma isn't a great trade. This observation does make me wonder if it doesn't have something to do with dopamine levels/sensitivity and whatever other systems amphetamine acts upon. People with bipolar disorder can be superhumanly charismatic when they are in a manic phase, and moderate to heavy amphetamine doses more or less approximate mania (in people without ADD/ADHD).
Like height and facial symmetry it's a trait that is unrelated to the content of one's mind but heavily biases people toward you in one on one interactions... regardless of the merit of what you're actually saying or doing.